Joan Cooper is passionate about kids...especially foster kids. She’s also very interested in helping foster parents obtain the tools they need to be great parents. It’s that goal that has motivated her to take the lead in Child Saving Institute's foster parent networking support group AND become CSI’s first non-staff foster parent “trainer”—leading the required 10-week licensing class. Most surprisingly, she expends this time and energy despite the fact she is no longer a foster parent.
Now that’s going “all in” for kids.
Joan and Justin Cooper knew from the beginning they would be foster parents some day. Justin, an attorney for Omaha’s Metropolitan Utility District, was a former public defender and had seen first-hand the struggles of children in the system. Joan, a life-long teacher, was committed to changing outcomes for at-risk kids. It was a natural fit. When their daughter, Lauren, was 11, they completed licensing to become foster parents. They assumed they were going to get school age children, but welcomed two (unrelated) infant girls instead. “We decided from the beginning that whatever happens in reunification, no matter how long or short their stay, we would give the foster children placed in our care something that no one would ever take away from them,” Joan recalls. “They would know they were valued in our home.
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“No matter the timeframe, foster parenting allows you an incredible opportunity to give them a ‘regular’ day, a ‘regular’ life for a while. Think of that opportunity!”
Joan is also attuned to the intense grief foster children experience. “When it comes to fostering, many parents focus on the grief they will feel when the child leaves their home to reunify, but we must acknowledge the grief the child is experiencing. We mourn the child, but in their separation, they are experiencing grief for many people—sisters and brothers, grandparents, aunts and uncles—everything familiar.”
As chance would have it, the Coopers adopted the little girls, Marissa and Vanessa, now six years old, essentially “maxing out” their home for extended foster placement. Undaunted in their commitment to serve children in need, Joan and Justin retained their license so they are able to offer respite care for foster parents needing a break, and Joan continues to lead the networking group. With her new system of planning monthly topics for the entire year to address specific issues, parents are able to attend those sessions they feel will be of the most help. As a result, she is seeing more repeat attendance as well as new faces. It’s an effort that not only results in better parenting, but happier, more knowledgeable foster parents which, in turn, benefits the kids.
“There are ways to continue to give back even if you can’t have children in your home,” Joan concludes. “I believe there is a way for a family to play some part in serving these troubled families to prevent them from staying broken. If you can be a foster family, great, but if you can’t, you can serve kids in other ways—donate clothing, offer respite care, offer encouragement and support. There are lots of areas where people can get involved.”
